If I had to pick one thing I do which in turn causes me the most grief in my life…it would be having expectations of others. I’m frequently disappointed when I think someone will act one way and they inside act a completely different. Because I know having these expectations causes me so much pain, it seems like something I could change. Yet over the years I have not changed. I still have expectations regarding how people will act in certain situations and am disappointed when their behavior does not match my expectations. I alluded to “having expectations of others” a couple of times already on this blog, like when I mentioned “disappointment avoidance” in my post Asking For Help or in my post Being Stood Up when I had an expectation that my friend would show up even though I knew in my heart that she wouldn’t.
I wish I could wake up one day and all of a sudden I only set expectations for myself, but I’m old set in my ways enough to know that day will likely never come. Instead I thinking recognition does ease the pain a bit.
Do you have expectations of others? How do you deal with the disappointment when they don’t meet your expectations?